Posted on November 2, 2006 - by Administrator

The Do’s and Don’ts of Divorce

If worse comes to worse, and divorce is the only option, keep in mind these divorce tips to make it as easy as possible on your children.

DO:
DO allow children to openly express their own feelings.
DO listen to your children and validate their feelings.
DO be honest (in an age appropriate way).
DO let children know about family changes such as visitation, and moving.
DO reassure your children that the divorce was not their fault.
DO emphasize the finality of the divorce.
DO spend quality time with each child.
DO be consistent with rules expectations.
DO protect your child from parental conflict.
DO provide a safe and stable environment.

DON’T:
DON’T assess blame. Children shouldn’t be taking sides.
DON’T talk negatively about the other parent.
DON’T use children as message carriers to the other parent.
DON’T overburden your children with emotional or financial concerns.
DON’T make excuses for the behavior of the other parent. Allow your child to see the other parent realistically.
DON’T make your child your confidant – remain the adult and parent.
DON’T allow your children to put themselves in the middle of adult conflicts.
DON’T discourage your child’s desire to have a relationship with the other parent or step-parent.

If you follow these few divorce tips, your children will have a much easier time dealing with your divorce.

Check out these recommended ebooks if you want more information on divorce.
If you are on the verge of divorce, Relationshipguide.net recommends this ebook. It has tons of information on saving your marriage, and will be very helpful!

If you are in the process of getting a divorce, check out this step by step guide to planning and executing your divorce.

And last but not least, if you are in a messy divorce (it happens), this ebook is a must have. It will show you how to legally save money in your divorce.