Posts Tagged ‘wedding’
Posted on February 5, 2009 - by Administrator
Marital Depression: What causes it and how to avoid it
Marital depression is similar to post-natal depression. It occurs in the aftermath of a wedding and honeymoon when a couple realizes that perhaps they have no plans, no organization in their new life together, they feel scared of what may lie ahead and they fear the sacrifices that they have made by getting married.
Although these things sound terrible, it is purely psychological and can be overcome. Both men and women can suffer from marital depression, although it is more common in women since they are typically the ones who crave organization and need to know what’s going to happen. In the absence of this knowledge, they can somewhat psychologically panic, which makes them become depressed and upset.
After a fantasy wedding and the perfection of the day, as well as the pursuing honeymoon, people often then hit the road block – what happens now? Where will they live, what about their jobs, can they do the same things as before? Things always will change when a couple gets married, even if they have lived together for years, simply because they have made the ultimate commitment to each other, and they are ‘locked’ together by their vows and promises. This means sacrifice for each other. They will not always be able to do the things they did before, but instead they must replace them with other things.
There is nothing to fear, except fear itself. A person fears the what ifs, and the maybes. They fear that their marriage will not succeed from that point on, and so become upset, depressed and sometimes it can affect work and social life. But they shouldn’t have any reason to fear. Unless a marriage was rushed into, they will have time to talk and plan from the point of the engagement to the point of the wedding. They must discuss and plan ahead what they are going to do, and do so in agreement, working as a team. A stable partnership is the key to a stable and successful relationship. This doesn’t mean there won’t ever be disagreements and arguments and even those dreaded ‘rough spots’ but that goes for every marriage and is completely normal. These situations just have to be worked through as a team.
A person must realize that their marriage is not going to run smoothly all the time. Things will change as time passes and it is not going to be a fairytale. This realization alone is often all it takes to avoid marital depression, since it prepares a person for the rougher times. Do not expect a marriage to fail – if you do, then don’t get married! Instead just expect bad times as well as the good ones – hopefully more good ones!
You must always be open with your partner as well, about everything. Talking and communication is the ultimate must-have for a relationship. You will never be able to agree and there will be more arguments if people do not talk things through and find a mutual ground. Sometimes your own sacrifices will be made for your partner, but sometimes theirs will be made for you. In the meantime, you will be agreeing and enjoying your new life together. A marriage just needs planning, communication and love. You will find that you both soon get into the swing of things!
Posted on November 19, 2007 - by Administrator
Tips for Planning the Perfect Wedding
Your wedding day. The greatest day of your life. Well it should be…and it will be with some careful planning. Here are some handy tips:
1) Delegate – On the day the bride and groom are the stars of the show. They should at no stage be involved in talking to the receptionist about Aunt Doris’s room or the fact that the lock is broken on the gents toilets. Make a list of who is in charge of what, most people will be honoured to help. Put someone is charge of lapel flowers, someone in charge of checking everyone in (if at a hotel), someone to show people the seating plan etc.
2) Rehearse – Run through the day as you see it going and look at the timings of things. Allow a little breathing space in between things like the meal and the photo’s. Things can crop up and the last thing you want is to be rushing. Guests don’t mind standing abour chatting and having a drink, its what people do at weddings.
3) Don’t fuss about others – The day is your day. Don’t worry too much if Brenda from the office hasn’t got a seat next to Malcolm, let them sort it out themselves. Don’t feel like you have to run the whole event, let the event manager sort things out, you have paid him enough to do it!
4) Suppliers – Make a list of the people you have booked and ring them seven days to ensure they have the correct time, the correct venue and they know what they are doing. Leave nothing to chance, it will also put you mind at ease on the day
5) Enjoy it! – It will be the fastest day of your life and hopefully you’ll only do it once. Make sure you are not wishing you had done this and that the day after. Do it all, make it special and just relax…there is a way around most things when everyone pulls together.