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Posted on September 29, 2006 - by Administrator

Online Dating Advice and Tips

Keeping these few points in mind will immensely help you in the world of online dating, especially if you are new to it.

Choose an interesting screen name. Using one that hints at marriage or is too sexy is to be avoided. Do not include a screen name that includes your real name. Men are most likely to be drawn to a screen name that is based on looks

If you are interested in that good looking person in you area, you may choose to let them find you. More than likely, if they are interested, you will get an email from them expressing so. If that does not happen, send them a short email and wait for the follow up from them.

Don’t reveal anything personal you wouldn’t tell them on your first date. Spilling your guts out online can be an easy thing to do, because it is much easier to talk to someone by typing on your keyboard versus face to face over a candle lit dinner. Do not reveal anything about your past relationships or your income. And one sure way to scare someone away is to tell them how much you want to get married.

Include multiple photographs in your profile. Men especially are drawn more to the profiles with more photos. The more photos you post, they will get a better idea of how you look, and this could result in more people contacting you.

Never communicate with someone who will not send a picture of themselves, for obvious reasons.

If you receive an email with only a picture or profile, don’t waste your time. They didn’t waste their time writing anything to you, right?

Wait a day or so before responding to an email of someone who is interested in you. You don’t want to look to desperate now do you?

Some would stray away from answering emails on Friday or Saturday night. This would give the impression you are available, and it would be wise to make it look like you are not. Play the ole’ hard to get game!

If the person you sent an email to does not respond, quit sending all those emails! If a man does not respond, stop e-mailing him. If they are interested, they will contact you.

Reply in the same manner as the person who contacted you. If they sent a few paragraphs, don’t feel like you should send only a 3 line response. Most importantly, just be yourself!

Posted on September 29, 2006 - by Administrator

The Perfect Wedding, Is It Possible?

You have found the perfect man, and on your finger is the perfect ring. Next comes planning the perfect wedding! While planning your wedding can be overwhelming and stressful, you can definitely make things perfect for you and your husband to be. Through what seems like a never ending list of decisions and choices, a little communication and patience is all that is needed. Considering the following questions and breaking your wedding planning down should have you well on your way to planning a perfect wedding.
First, you will need to decide the type of reception you would like to have. Are you planning an intimate gathering of friends and family, or a bigger wedding? Chat with your relatives and soon to be in laws to get an idea of what their needs are, and ideas for the reception. You can visit reception hall possibilities and talk with them about what they offer, once you have a general idea of how many guests you will have. Be sure to plan where you will have the reception well in advance, as many popular reception halls will be reserved by other couples. Also remember that the reception halls you choose to visit have most likely hosted many weddings before yours, and they offer suggestions that you may have not thought about. It is okay to not have all the answers right away, and many reception sites will happily let you take their information so you can spend time considering what they have to provide. Of course, you will need to establish your wedding budget, as the reception will be the most expensive part.
 
The next item on your list is to decide what your guests will be eating and the wedding cake.  It’s a good idea to try the food at each reception site, if possible the same food you might pick for your wedding.  Your food selection will also be determined by what time of the day your reception is. If you choose an early reception, you might prefer to have a lunch buffet, while an evening reception calls for more a more formal presentation. You can also ask for references from the catering company that will be providing the food at your reception. These references will enable you to evaluate the service as well as the food.
 
Invitations, photography, flowers, and music are all decisions you will make based on the style you wish for your wedding.  These are also areas where you can cut back on spending if you need to. Choosing a less fancy invitation or less formally arranged flowers can save you money in the long run.  The perfect wedding does not always need to be the most expensive one!  Use your creativity and your wedding will be as perfect as the man you have chosen to marry. And one more thing, HAVE FUN!

Posted on September 28, 2006 - by Administrator

Divorce and its Effects

When your marriage is on the rocks and everything is not going the way you want in your personal life, you naturally consider divorce or separation.  But what will divorce mean for you?  Outside the obvious recognition that you will no longer be married to your partner, divorce means many changes to your life, and there are a number of repercussions that you may not even think of while entangled in your own personal issues. It might be useful to see the changes divorce will bring to your life. Divorce will at first mean awkwardness or anxiety in social situations. You are used to being part of a duo, and you are now solo. This sometimes can be positive, because it allows you to meet new people and discover new adventures. Yet it can also become difficult when you are around friends who were once a part of your married life. Your friends will have to adjust to a new and changing you. Don’t be fearful of facing the awkwardness, as the worst thing you can do is avoid social situations at this changing time in your life.  You will find staying positive and optimistic will help keep your friendships strong as you change. Your living situation will also change due to your divorce. Even under the friendliest of divorce agreements, you or your partner will no longer be combining incomes or living together. You will also be taking on responsibilities that your partner may have taken care of while you were married.  For example, you may not have had to take out the garbage or mow the grass when you were married, but you will now be responsible for those things in addition to others. It is important to allow yourself time to adjust to whatever changes come your way. Recognizing your feelings of aggravation, anger, blame, or fear will help you to eventually overcome them and progress to more positive thoughts. Divorce will also bring about conclusiveness to a relationship that was once very important to you. There will be times of sorrow, fear, pleasure or a mix of many feelings that are difficult to name. Recognize these feelings as normal, and take some time to look back over the relationship and take a sincere assessment of both the good and the bad.  Beating yourself up is useless, yet understanding what you will do in a different way in the future is priceless. Divorce ends a relationship, but it also ends a lifestyle.  The rest of your life will depend on how you approach the changes divorce will bring. Stay strong and be positive. Trust yourself and take comfort in the opportunities that await you in the future.

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Posted on April 29, 2006 - by Administrator

The Truth About Cyber Relationships

There was a time when the only way you could meet someone with whom you could explore some romantic possibilities was through introductions from common friends. Though chance encounters were never ruled out, meeting the man or woman of your dreams in an elevator ride or during a freak car accident are stuff that only work in movies. It was all about networking. The people you would be able to date were the same people in your network, or your extended network.

But with the advent of the internet, things changed. These days, you could always meet someone through the many communication channels made possible by the World Wide Web. Chat rooms, websites, and even email lists abound for this very same purpose. You could be able to establish contact with other people looking for romance on the internet.

Even when youre not looking for romance, it sometimes strikes you at the most unexpected of times. If youre a member of a forum for example, wishing to share your thoughts and ideas to fellow members of such an online community, youd be able to encounter some people who would profess admiration for what you have discussed. Often, one thing leads to another, and soon enough, youll be exchanging sweet, romantic emails on a daily basis, and sometimes even more frequently.

Amidst the hoopla of a budding cyber romance are things that we should not fail to consider. Lets take a look at some of these vital considerations when it comes to affairs on the internet.

* Dealing with someone we cannot see is a breeding ground for lies. The usual lies that people make when it comes to cyber affairs are about their age, about their looks, and about their personal histories. There are graver kinds of lies, even. Some lie about their civil status. They pretend to be single when in fact, theyre living with their wives and kids. Some even lie about their gender. They may be looking for a romance of an alternative variety, but they want to catch your attention by claiming that they are of the opposite sex. The question is: how would you be able to deal with these lies? Are they enough to shatter your alleged love? The thing is, we can never be sure about which is true, and which is fabricated. All we could rely on are their words, and those very words arent even spoken theyre typed.

* A cyber affair is useless, unless you go from online to an offline relationship. Dealing with him or her in the real world would be an entirely different experience than dealing with him in the World Wide Web. Its the true test for the legs of the relationship. Its the only way to guarantee the certainty of your feelings for each other. If you dont have any plans of meeting up, a cyber relationship becomes pointless.

* The fact that you cannot see who youre chatting or exchanging emails with only intensifies the sense of mystery behind the other person. And this sense of mystery is often equated with love. Such shouldnt be the case. Love is deeper than that. It is not anchored on what you dont know. Rather, it is anchored on what you know and appreciate about the other person.

This article shouldnt be taken to mean that cyber relationships are bad. Theyre not. If they make you happy without transgressing on other peoples feelings, then they should be good, right?

This article only aims to show you some truths about cyber relationships. Knowing what is true is key to knowing what is proper, after all.

Posted on April 29, 2006 - by Administrator

Spice Up A Long Distance Romance

Absence makes the heart grow fonder, or so the clich goes.

Indeed, love knows no distance and boundaries, and this holds true for those who have their own share of successful long distance relationships. A closer look into such relationships would tell you that keeping each other interested, at the very least, entails the same, if not more, amount of effort as that involved in other relationships. The elements of trust and respect figure more prominently in keeping that love flame alive. You can be apart physically, but be right next to each other emotionally.

Not seeing each other for a long time is bad enough, but being unaware that you are not taking an extra special effort in communicating is even worse. To make your relationship work, long distance communication involves more than just the regular phone calls, emails, or gifts. It is the extra amount of time and effort that really matters. Here are some unique tips on how to make a long distance romance work.

Snail Mails

The age of technology has made almost aspect of lives automatic, and yes, less personalized. While getting your loving thoughts across through email is fast, inexpensive, and hassle-free, nothing beats the excitement of reading even a simple I-love-you hand-written message on perfumed stationery. This speaks volumes of how much time, effort and creativity you are willing to exert just to make him or her happy.

Singing Telegram

You can never go wrong with the universal language of love, music. You can do better than sending him the latest album of his favorite singer. Why not become his favorite singer instead? Sing him his favorite songs, recorded on tape, or have it transferred to a CD. But if youre not up to be a singer, you can be his personal DJ instead. Compile all his favorite love songs in a CD.

But if you want to give him a live performance, why not engage the services of a singing telegram? Singing telegrams are actually singers who can be hired to sing a song, in person or by phone, for someone. This is a great way to commemorate a special occasion, and would also be a certified hit for non-occasions.

Video Greeting Card

You havent seen each other for months now, and at this point, you would give anything just to do so. Well, you can do just that without actually flying in to see her. You can make a video greeting card or a video of yourself talking to her through the camera while you go about your daily activities. This is one way of letting her into your life away from her. And while youre into it, why not make it more interesting by singing her favorite song!

Flowers Barrage

What girl wouldnt melt at the sight of bunches upon bunches of her favorite flowers? Give her the thrill of her life by sending her a bouquet of her favorite flowers every day as a prelude to, and leading to her birthday, anniversary, or other special days. You can make each day unpredictable by alternately sending it to her office and to the place she stays in, or by sending different kinds of flowers on different days.

Surprise Visit

Have you reached the point when you feel like you can no longer stand another minute without him? By all means, go and see him without letting him know beforehand. Buy that ticket and get on the next plane, bus, or train trip to where he is. There is nothing more romantic than showing him that you would cross across rivers and over mountains just to see him.

 

 

Posted on March 31, 2006 - by Administrator

Safety Precautions To Take Before Dating Someone You Met Online

Nowadays, everything and anything is done online, and that also includes dating. And it is not surprising to know that there is a robust growth in online dating sites bolstered by the steady increase of its registered members. As more and more people gain confidence in making transactions via the Internet, analysts say that people who engage in online dating are actually more willing to pay subscription or registration fees to avail of credible and safe services.

Online dating continues to appeal its users primarily because of the anonymity involved. In February 2005, an academic survey on online dating showed that 94% of those who are into online dating saw their online dates again after their first meeting, and that the relationships that formed thereafter lasted for an average of at least seven months, with 18% of them lasting for more than a year.

However, it is also this element of anonymity that makes online dating, as opposed to the usual dating practices, more potentially risky for those seeking partners. Since the usual ways of judging a person up close through his body language, physical appearance and other factors are totally absent in online dating, a psychopath could very well pretend to be your average normal guy, and a married woman can easily pass off as a single woman.

But online dating can be fun if one knows how to take heed of signs that would tell you that something is or isnt real. The following are some of the things to watch out for:

* There is always a high probability that the person youre talking with is married. An MSNBC research reveals that about one third of online dating service users are married! And that is on top of the fact that men and women often lie about their true civil status and age. Watch out for tell-tale signs such as when people ask for your number but not giving theirs, irregular and hurried calls, not sharing their last names although you have given yours, and give very few, if not zero details on families or friends.

* People who insist on having your email at the first talk. The market for online dating is a goldmine and many dating sites have a lot of creative and stealthy ways of marketing their services. Do not give out your email address at first contact because the next time you check your email, your inbox would be full of spammed online dating messages.

* It is natural for men and women to pretend to be younger or older than their age. Anyway, these are white lies that would not be hard to miss or ignore once you come face to face with that person. Whats worse and even more traumatic is the possibility of being preyed upon by online stalkers. Try asking your potential online partner if he would be open to a first time date with a chaperon in tow, or to group dating, or to meet in a public place. If not, drop him or her. Theres something sinister about a person who wants to be alone with you in a private place during your first meeting.

* Watch out for money scams. There are just too many con artists and scam artists around the world, and the Internet is their playground. Be wary of those who try to ask money from you for whatever reason. Unless you have already met the person and have some personal knowledge about the actual circumstances, never give in to such requests. But it would be safer to cut off the communication. There is simply not a single ounce of integrity in someone who asks for money from someone he hardly knows anything about.

Posted on March 16, 2006 - by Administrator

Romantic Ideas For Anniversaries

Anniversaries are meant to commemorate the very first time when you exchanged your vows of commitment, either to each other or through a wedding celebration. Often, however, people celebrate this day by having dinner. Not that such cannot be special, but come on. It has become pass. Anniversaries deserve something better something memorable that you could share to your kids and your grandkids in the future.

Hence, here are some romantic ideas on how to celebrate anniversaries. Hopefully, theyd give you an idea on how to commemorate such a day in a way that would make your partner feel very special and so much loved.

1. You may reminisce the beginning of your love story, either through a series of gifts or maybe a series of dates. Start by recollecting the significant moments in your relationship, and relive each moment. You can do so through a collage or a scrapbook, or maybe something digital if youre into it, whatever suits you both. You can also visit each memorable place and rekindle the past, say, the first kiss at the park, the first date at a particular pizza place, the first time you held hands in the school parking lot, etc. A reminder of how your love once blossomed could intensify your feelings for each other, and no doubt those memories will make you smile.

2. If you are both busy people, try a weekend away from everything else, maybe out of town. Go to a place where no one else knows you and you are free to act anyway you want to. You can pretend to be an eloping couple or be like crazy kids, chasing each other. Explore new places as you both explore each other. Sharing more special moments nurture the relationship and variety can bring a relationship to new heights too.

3. A renewal of vows is a good way to celebrate an anniversary, especially if youve been together for quite awhile now. Renewing vows expresses that sincere desire to stay in the relationship and continue being happy with that person. It brings a higher level of security for one another because it means that even after all these years, we have not grown tired of each other. This renewal of vows can be done in private, but may also be done with a lot of your friends and relatives as witnesses, similar to how a wedding goes.

4. If both of you have been living in chaos (harassed at work, tired of taking care of the crying babies) and cant really afford out of town vacations, try something completely normal and laidback this time. You may take your children to a trusted relative or friend, while you simply stay at home and just enjoy the pleasure of each others company, as if you were newlyweds, with nothing to worry about except expressing your love for the other person.

5. You can also choose to spend simple activities just enjoying each others company. Have a picnic, cook for each other, fly a kite, go to a carnival, sing duets, dance, or even just stay in bed for the entire day. After all, all we really need is some peace and quiet, plus a whole lot of loving!

6. Surprise your partner. Whatever you have in mind, whatever you think would please him/her, just go ahead and surprise him/her! Everyone loves surprises, especially when theyre declarations of love! And the more original your plan is, the more kisses youre likely to get.

7. Get him/her something special, something one of a kind. It can be some customized thing, but it would be better if you yourself could make something. This shows just how a great deal of effort you put into the gift, and this reflects the effort you give in the relationship.

8. Dress up like a genie and grant him/her wishes! But tell him/her the rule is you can not give material things, rather, what you will grant are things that he/she wishes you to do. It is up to you if this is valid only during the day or an entire month. Say, back massages every other day, cook a meal for her, dress up in that really sexy lingerie Your mantra would be, Your wish is my command!

Posted on March 10, 2006 - by Administrator

Romantic Ideas For A Weekend Getaway

What a grand thing, to be loved! What a grander thing still, to love! – Victor Hugo

Ah, nobody can agree more with that. Theres nothing greater than knowing that whatever you do keeps your loved one happy. But keeping it that way takes something more than the occasional dates and gifts for your partner. And one way to make it more special is to have the perfect weekend getaway with your partner.

Sure, nothing beats any moment spent entirely alone with your loved one. But wouldnt it be great to make that extra effort to keep him or her smiling for a long time? Here are a few ideas for a romantic weekend getaway:

Theres No Place Like Home.

Why not? Well, theres another way of taking that saying to a different level. Make arrangements for your kids to stay at your in-laws for the weekend. Keep off unwanted visitors and phone calls by letting everyone know that you will be away for the weekend. Have a marathon DVD movie viewing. Cook for your partner. Take a shower together. Give each other a good massage, or a satisfying body scrub. Turn an otherwise ordinary household errand into one big playtime with your partner.

Hotel R & R

If you dont have much time to make preparations, a quick call for reservation at a five-star hotel would do the job. With the hotels recreational activities, you will surely not run out of ideas to keep the level of excitement and entertainment up. Check out whats on the restaurants menu, take your breakfast-in-bed longer than usual, take a luxurious dip into the pool, and take a hot spa together. But before you forget the foremost reason why you checked in, make sure that you allot some time for your in-room activity together.

Weekend Workshops

There is a simple way to say I want to discover the whole world with you. Wouldnt it be great to learn something new together? Before you decide on what class or workshop to get into, consult and consider your partners suggestions. This would ensure that both of you would be doing something interesting for both of you. From drawing lessons, ballroom-dancing sessions to crafts class, there are many options to get on with a busy weekend. But if you want to make it more memorable, choose activities that are totally new for both of you. You will not only go home all satisfied and happy, but also more skilled and accomplished.

Nature Tripping

Mother Nature would never go wrong. Nothing beats romance amidst the splendor of natural beauty and breathtaking views. Check out the nearest beach resort near you and make arrangements for a weekend romp at the beach. Have your own picture-perfect moment by having dinner with a view of the sunset. Or if both of you are up for a good workout, go rock-climbing or hiking together. But be sure to experience the ultimately romantic outdoor stargazing, and let the moon and the stars do the talking.

Church or Community Retreats

What better way to profess your love by going through a relationship-enhancing session or retreat with your loved one? Although youll have less private time together, it is another way of getting to know and discover new things about each other. It is the perfect way to strengthen your relationship and the best time to make an affirmation of your commitment to one another in the presence of other people.

After any of those romantic weekend getaways, expect to get more hugs, kisses, and attention from your partner. But as the saying goes, love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get, it’s what you are expected to give which is everything.

Posted on March 1, 2006 - by Administrator

Romantic Ideas And Tips For A First Date

Preparing for that big date? It takes more than nice clothes and a fancy dinner to make your date feel special. If you want to leave that lasting impression, here are some tips and ideas for a truly memorable date that would be hard to forget:

1. Having dinner is always the number one dating activity. But the key here is how to make it romantic. Giving your date flowers is always nice. Make sure that you have an idea of whats good and what isnt on the menu so that she wont regret eating out with you. A delicious meal leaves a lasting impression. Dont pretend to be an expert on food though as this might bore your date. To make a first date special, there can be other firsts you can set up. First time to try an exquisite dish, first time to drink a certain kind of wine, first time to eat with her hands, whatever, let your imagination run wild with this one. You can also connive with a waiter to do something different. Maybe he can make a public announcement like, Mr. John Doe would like to thank Miss Jane for granting him the pleasure of her company tonight. The key is to make this dinner different from all the dinners shes had in the past.

2. The next common dating activity would be going to a movie. Most girls go for romantic comedies. Its funny and mushy at the same time. Just dont keep grunting or yawning while youre watching. Shed appreciate it very much if you matched her enthusiasm, or at least, assure her that you dont think these movies are lame. Quoting lines from the movie afterwards wont hurt your chances either.
If you really cant stand romantic comedies, try a funny movie. Just make sure you dont end up snorting coke up your nose (I mean the soft drink, okay?). Its ideal to get a jumbo-sized serving of popcorn that the two of you can share. Not only do you get to brush your hand with hers, shell see you as a generous date.

3. Do something shes never tried before. But only if shes up to it and only if you know how to go about that certain activity. As said earlier, something that sets this first date apart gives you an edge. Teach her how to ice skate and hold her hand steady as she tries to balance herself. Play mini-golf, teach her the proper swing and let her win some times. Play billiards and talk strategies on how to get the ball in, looking deep into her eyes. Be sensitive enough though to figure out when shes getting tired and dont let her feel frustrated. Do something stupid, like swinging the golf ball backwards, just to make her laugh. If she isnt enjoying this particular activity, you can always go to a nice restaurant

4. Go to a theme park or a carnival. Surely, there will be loads that you can do and, unless she is too sophisticated for this, she will surely enjoy this date. Its not everyday you get to ride the Ferris wheel, play arcade or carnival games, eat cotton candy, reminisce on the merry-go-round ride or scream wildly on the roller coaster. This is a chance to be like kids again and just have good clean fun. Just make sure that you will be a gentleman and will help her get up on rides, hold her hand when she gets scared, guide her through the game booths, and of course, win her some prizes. No matter how corny prizes you get, she will surely appreciate these as you have won these for her.

5. Talk. But dont just blabber away. Talk WITH your date. Conversation is important as the point of the date is to get to know someone and enjoy their company. Believe it or not, good conversation is a real turn-on. Deliver compliments. Compliments are always good, and if delivered the right way, very romantic. As long as youre sincere and do not go overboard, your date will be repeating your words over and over in her head days after your first date.

6. Lastly, a kiss on the cheek or the hand is an appropriate way to end the date. Make sure you tell your date how much you enjoyed the date, and ask her out again, if you really did. Tell her what kind of impression she has made on you, and make sure its an ego-boosting one. Youll likely have a second date if youve treated her well and made her feel better about herself.

 

Posted on February 21, 2006 - by Administrator

On Finding Mister Right

Indeed, women outnumber men, 3 to 1. With this ratio, there are not that many guys running around. But this shouldnt mean that women should settle for the first guy they would see. The rule is: always strive to find your ideal mate. There are qualities that you should look for, and these would ensure a happy, fruitful, and fulfilling relationship.

Here are some virtues that the right man must possess:

1. Chivalry is not dead. Every woman wants to be treated like a queen and a guy who still opens doors and pulls up the chair for you is most guaranteed to treat you nice and take good care of you.

2. Look at how he treats the girls in his family and it will give you a glimpse of how he will treat you. If he treats his sisters and mother kind and well, and has a great deal of respect for them, it is likely that you will be treated well and respected too.

3. Choose a guy who isnt afraid to look un-macho. This means that he is secure of himself and will understand your feelings, as he can also be in touch with what we call that feminine side of his. He isnt afraid to show his emotions so both of you can be more open to one another about each others feelings. Make sure he can control his emotions though. You dont want a guy who cries more often than you do or breaks down before you do.

4. Go for a man with an ambition, or a passion. You would know that he has a certain drive and this can lead him to succeed. This assures you that he can take charge and take responsibility, and provide well for you and your family. Choose one who isnt easily defeated or pessimistic about the things that come his way.

5. Find a man who is confident and knows how to carry himself. He doesnt try too hard to look the part but he simply tries to be presentable and charming enough. This wont make you dread that time when you have to introduce him to your family and friends.

6. Find a man who can make you laugh! Life will no doubt badger you with different trials and problems. Though it is important for you to be with someone who has to be serious enough to deal with all these, it is just as important to have someone who can take your mind away from all of it. Laughing is also a very wonderful feeling that leaves you optimistic and ready to take on anything. Plus you are sure to enjoy a lifetime with this person and not become bored.

7. It is ideal that you and your man share the same values. This way, if ever you encounter problems, you can avoid conflicts stemming from drastically different perspectives. In addition, a guy must be open-minded too.

8. Make sure that he also intellectually stimulates you and can keep up his end of the conversation. This keeps you on edge, apart from the attraction you have for each other. Plus youll never get bored with a man who constantly feeds your mind.

9. Do everything you can think of to test whether he is faithful to you or not. Loyalty is very important to women and for most of us, love equates to trust. If this is a problem, you can be sure that the relationship will crumble into pieces.

10. Lastly, he must have a great tolerance level for you. You can be experiencing PMS and all hell can break loose. Therefore, find a man who understands you as a woman and one who will still patiently love you.

Posted on February 15, 2006 - by Administrator

On Finding Miss Right

Relationships fail because of your wrong choice of partner. Not that your partner would prove imperfect, mind you, but the synergy between you and her might not be healthy enough to carry what should be a healthy relationship. Your choice of partner should be guided by what would complement your expectations best. These qualities should be known beforehand, so that you may know what to look for in a woman before you even start dating.

Here is a sample list of things to look for in Miss Right.

1. Find a woman who will take good care of you, but will also let herself be taken cared of. Especially in this day and age when even women are focused with their own careers, it would still be nice to find a woman who can find the time to take care of you and your family. A woman basically knows how to nurture and care for others. To know that this wont be neglected once you are in the relationship is most comforting. However, she must also let you take care of her. Some women tend to take the nurturing role to the point of being a martyr. Make sure she doesnt do this because this is potentially damaging not only to her but also to the relationship and, if ever, your family. With men struggling to be true to the role of provider and protector, a woman must let a man do his part. This will further boost a mans confidence as this shows how the woman is certain that the man he loves is worthy of her vulnerability.

2. Choose a woman who can be independent and is fairly confident. No man needs a clingy creature, sometimes to the point of being an irritating nag, to keep him on a choke hold. A woman who knows her own strengths, uses her head and voices out her opinions is very much attractive. After all, you are looking for a partner in life, and not a baby. You need someone who you will treat as an equal, whom you respect, and in turn, will respect you. She also has to be able to downplay her insecurities and be able to resolve them, by accepting that she is imperfect, but she is a jewel as well. She must know how to stand on her own and be able to be happy and have fun even without you.

3. Make sure that she also intellectually stimulates you and can keep up her end of the conversation. The bimbo image will no longer result to lasting relationships. This keeps you on edge, apart from the attraction you have for each other. Plus youll never get bored with a woman who constantly feeds your mind.

4. If a girl can be comfortable around the people around you, whether they be your beer buddies, business partners or your own family, then you will definitely enjoy her company. More importantly, if she wins the thumbs up of friends and family, then you can be sure she can stay with you for a very long time.

5. Whether you take a girl to eat at a hotdog stand or you take her to the fanciest restaurant, if she isnt bothered about what she eats or where she is but she can act as if she belongs in that place, then congratulations! You have found a girl you will never be ashamed of. She enjoys the simple treats you give her and she can also enjoy an elegant setting, without you having to constantly point out which silverware she has to use. She would also know how to relate to people of different social standing.

6. Find a woman who can trust you (assuming of course that you are worthy of that trust). A woman being jealous every now and then is acceptable, but dealing with constant paranoia? Not good. Just make sure that you will never ever break her trust because you can be sure she will never make you forget it.

7. It is rare to find a woman who truly understands a man: his need for space, constant ego boosts and his pride. So at least, find a woman who would be willing to understand, and would not constantly complain. Not only will this give you less headaches, you will feel less likely to just push each other way to avoid conflict.

8. She accepts you for who you are. And I mean everything about you, including the fact that you can be icky at times. You might smell bad, get a big beer belly, sweat a lot or snore so loudly, she would still stay, love you and still consider you her prince charming.

9. Lastly, she provides motivation and inspiration to you. This alone is an indication that she is Ms. Right. No wonder how cheesy it sounds, with her around, it makes you want to be a better man.

Posted on February 12, 2006 - by Administrator

Moving On After A Breakup

The breakdown of a relationship is not an easy matter to deal with. Its bad enough that you have to let go of a person you love, its even worse that you were caught off guard and is the one being dumped. You coop yourself up inside your bedroom, refuse to talk with your friends, and cry like youve never cried before. Or if youre the resilient type, after a brief crying session, you hook up with friends and party like theres no tomorrow. People might have different ways of coping with a relationship breakdown, but basically, you go through the same process of mourning, acceptance, and moving on.

First of all, allow yourself to mourn your loss. Letting out a good cry would be a good release for the confusing mix of pain, anger, or longing that you might be feeling at the moment. Seek out a friend who would be willing to listen to you unload your emotional burden. Or you may opt to take this time all to yourself.

As they say, after the storm comes the sun. Its time to get out of your foxhole. Start the healing process by accepting the fact that the relationship has ended. Make an affirmation of this reality by facing the mirror and telling yourself that everything will be okay from now on, the way you would tell a friend the same thing. But do be honest with yourself and do not deprive yourself of a good cry on occasional bouts of depression.

Acceptance does not mean that you have to blame somebody, even yourself, for the fallout. The relationship is over, and no amount of blame or finger pointing would make you feel any better. Doing so would only force you to put the blame on either one of you, seeing the whole thing in a negative viewpoint, and keeping you from moving forward.

Do not let a failed relationship scar you for life. Move on. Buoy yourself up. Start loving yourself again. Go out with friends, or spend more time with your family. Take that dream vacation youve been putting off for some time now. Buy yourself a good book, a great dress, or the latest DVD movie. In short, start living your life anew.

Sooner or later, breakups would pave the way to new relationships for you and your ex. Prep yourself up for the eventuality of seeing him or herself with someone else. In case you do, you might be surprised to feel stabs of jealousy when you thought all along that you have already moved on. Suppress, but do acknowledge the feeling because it is normally a part of your healing process.

Do you have to get rid of the gifts, pictures and other things that would remind you, in any way, of your ex? While it may give you a physical closure, doing so would not necessarily put up a stamp of finality to your past. Keep those things for a while, and decide on what to do with it later.

If you do start dating, make sure that you know what your intentions are. Are you ready for another relationship? Or are you going out for friendly dates for now? At this point, it would be fairly easy to fall into that love-on-the-rebound trap. If you do get to know someone, on friendly terms or more, be sure that you know your own intentions right from the start.

Relationships do not have to end in bitter terms. Save your friendship, or at least be civil to your ex. Its a small world and sooner or later, you would bump into each other again. And that does not discount the possibility of rekindling your relationship with him or her in the future.

Posted on February 6, 2006 - by Administrator

WAITING FOR THE ONE?

Most Dating Myths Are False

Theres no such thing as a fairytale romance. You wont leave your glass slippers somewhere. And you dont have to wait for the proverbial Prince Charming to seek you out and try if the shoe would fit. Throughout the years, many romance myths have been formulated, conditioning our minds to accept that love is worthy of all the commercialized holidays designed to capitalize on the same. Love has been glorified with so much grandeur in tales and movies and popular culture. This, of course, created some problems. Often do people view love as magical, and often does it fail to live up to its hype. People were led to believe in fantastic stories waiting to be told, and seldom would they be able to prepare themselves for eventual tragedies that would be suffered along the way.

Below are some false beliefs about romance. With this article, it is hoped that they would be demystified so that we may realize what love truly is.

* Theres no such thing as destiny. You cannot simply wait for the one whom fate has planned for you. Its an ages old argument. Once you believe in destiny, you believe in predestination. This renders the concept of free will as moot. The decisions you make on a daily basis wont matter, since everything is preordained. Thus is the danger of this dating myth. Believing in destiny and reveling as it unfolds may look good on the silver screen, but in reality, it could produce some disastrous effects. You would need a positive act and whole lot of adjustments to find the right partner. You dont wait for destiny. Rather, you forge your own tale.

* Theres no such thing as a soul mate. Though most spiritual schools of thought do not preclude this idea, they do not promote it as well. Kindred spirits are the stuff of historical romance novels. Time is temporal as it is relative. Love does not endure the ages. It is something we should savor, and care for, while we are alive. After all, how could we breathe affection if we dont have any more breath to take?

* Theres no such thing as the perfect partner. Perfection is a quality that mortals are deprived of. Imperfection is in fact the very essence of our humanity. Its the reason we strive. Its the reason why we try to make ourselves better persons. Its the reason why we constantly try to improve ourselves. Looking for the perfect partner is an exercise in futility. Even if you find the person most compatible to your own personality, some situations would call for some conflict, one way or another. Its because no two persons are ever alike, and with differences come misunderstandings. The trick is in how we work out these differences to strengthen our relationships.

* To say that love is unconditional would be nave. Its all about what is good for us. Though we may find someone for whom we could pledge our life, theres no use sticking with such a relationship when it becomes unhealthy. Believing in the unselfishness of love has brought about many social ills. Domestic violence is tolerated because of a strong adherence to such a fallacious principle. Verbal abuse is dismissed as nothing for the same reason. If a relationship is good for you, stick with it. Fight for it. But the moment it becomes harmful, leave immediately. Sacrificing yourself for the person you love entails the right reasons. Tolerating abuse is not, and should not, be one of them.

* You dont look for love, love will find you. Though this isnt exactly a false statement, it does have its shares of problems. It promotes non-action and idleness, when a more active lifestyle is what is needed to better our chances of finding an ideal mate. Indeed, you dont have to look for love. It will strike your heart eventually. But you should not sit still and wait for love to find you. Be visible and social, and you would be able to greatly expedite the process.

Posted on February 4, 2006 - by Administrator

How To Make A Long Distance Relationship Work

Many people claim that one of the biggest obstacles that work against what should be a healthy relationship is distance. Being physically apart is hard enough, what more when a couple has to contend with thousands of miles between them? He or she may be in another state, or worse, in another country. And this can cause some problems for people who, by nature, need some affection and care.

But if love can move mountains and could make us reach and grab the stars or swim the seven seas if love can cause the building of strong empires and the destruction of formidable ones if love does conquer everything then what is distance? Surely, its something that love true love that is can easily deal with, right?

If you are currently engaged in a long distance relationship, then here are some things you might want to consider to make it work. Indeed, a long distance relationship CAN work, and it CAN prove to the world that love, truly, knows no boundaries.

* Trust. Trust is an essential component of a healthy and lasting relationship. You just have to believe in your partner that he or she would do the right thing. Trust becomes doubly important when he or she is in a faraway land. Dont allow yourself to drown in a sea of uncertainty every night, thinking about his or her treacherous tendencies. You have to believe in him or her. You have to believe in the love you guys share. Without trust, a relationship would easily crumble.

* Honesty. Just because your partner is many miles away, such shouldnt mean that you could start being dishonest. Honesty begins with you. Share with your partner the events of your day. Tell him or her about your thoughts and ideas about certain matters. Never embellish your stories, nor should you deliberately leave out important details. The things you would share many not always be happy news, but you have to be honest. They may be painful, they may be depressing, but though ignorance is bliss, your partner deserves to know. Once you have practiced this, your partner would do the same for you. How could he or she not? An honest disposition deserves the same honesty as reward.

* Keep the communication channels open. A decade ago, long distance relationships suffered because of the dearth of communication channels. Couples situated as such were only left with snail mails and expensive phone calls. These days, technology has made things easier for people engaged in long distance relationships. Not only can they exchange instantaneous emails, they could also chat in real time through the internet. Also, voice and video correspondence has been made possible by the same technology. And if these arent enough, long distance couples can also resort to their mobile phones. Most telecommunication providers over SMS or text messaging, which is quite an affordable way of keeping in touch with a loved on who is far away.

* Set a date for your actual meeting. Lets face it. We can live with long distance relationships because we know they wont last forever. There will come a time when he or she has to move in with you, or vice versa. Set a specific date for such an occasion. Make this your goal. This would give you something to look forward to, and it would help you deal with the loneliness that may be caused by excessive yearning for the person you hold dear in your heart.

* Do something special for each other. Just because youre miles apart doesnt mean that youre left with no recourse but to keep your affections in check. You could express those affections in a variety of ways. Send a video or an audio package which the other can listen to during those lonely spells. But him or her a shirt or an item that would always remind him or her of you. Write him or her an actual, tangible letter that he or she could read before going to bed. With the many courier services plying their trade in this day and age, deliveries can be effectuated fast and conveniently.

Long distance relationships dont always have to end in tears. You could make it work, or as long as both parties have their hearts in the right place.

Posted on January 30, 2006 - by Administrator

How To Avoid Date Rape

Dating is meant to be fun. Its a chance to get to know new people and explore romantic possibilities with them. Its an opportunity to go out and enjoy new experiences and forge delightful memories.

Sadly, some people do take advantage of the situation.

Indeed, because most women extend a certain degree of trust to their dates, some unscrupulous individuals use this as an opening to impose their carnal desires upon the hapless victim. Date rape is an ever-growing social ill that increases by the number with each passing year. Statistics show that women who are between the ages of 16 and 24 are 4 times more prone to date rape.

So how would you be able to avoid date rape? Here are some essential tips.

* Limit your drinking. Its alright to drink alcoholic beverages but dont take in too much to the point of losing your clear perception of things. 90% of date rape cases occur when the victim is drunk. Its because in drunken stupor, people are at their weakest. They wont be able to fight back and protect themselves against transgressors who are violating their rights. So drink in moderation. Have fun without feeling the need to pass out.

* Keep your distance. A little flirting and a little intimacy may be fun, but dont overdo it to the point of surrendering yourself to your date. Always keep a safe distance so that youd have the space to prepare yourself against any potential attacks. 84% of women who have been date raped say that they know their attackers. So even if he has been a great friend for many months, you can never be too sure. Its better to be safe than sorry, so dont ever, ever forget to always be on the lookout for danger signs.

* Consider going on a group date. Date rapes are less frequent happenings when there are more than two people who go out together. Youd feel more secure when youve got some female companions. You could always watch each others back.

* The ride home is the most critical phase of the dating process. 88% of date rapes happen on the way home. If you could, try to secure a ride with a female companion, or at the very least, make sure that you have a trusted friend with you once your date decides to take you home.

* Know your rights. For women above 18, rape is defined as forcible penetration of any part of the mans body on the womans openings. By forced, the law means that the woman has disagreed to such an act. However, this may not always be expressed. A sexual act on an unconscious woman can also be considered as rape, since she is devoid of reason. The same goes for a woman who is under the influence of a sedative or a drug that induces hallucination or extreme moods. You have sole rights to your body, remember that. No one can violate your territorial space without your consent.

* Carry a pepper spray, a mace, or other self-defense objects with you. It is a given fact that males possess more physical strength than females. They can easily overpower you with brute force. Protective objects can help level the playing field.

Date rapes can be avoided, for as long as proper precautions are observed. Realizing the problem and the fact that it can possibly happen to you is the first step. You have to acknowledge the fact that date rape can happen to anyone, so that youll always be on your guard. Then and only then will you be able to accept the need for the precautions we have enumerated above.

Posted on January 29, 2006 - by Administrator

How Do You Know Its Love?

Sometimes, we develop a particular fondness for the person were dating. We just cant stop thinking about him/her, even after many, many hours savoring his/her company. We are left in a quandary about our feelings, and certain queasiness pervades our days. Then we ask ourselves the question: have we fallen in love with that person?

Love is indeed a wonderful thing. But it is something that we should be certain about, least we spend many sleepless nights in deep thoughts and confusion. Sadly, determining the veracity of love is not always easy. Sometimes, a deep infatuation is equated with the same.

So how do we know that its love real love that is? What could we be sure that the other person is not only the object of our thoughts, but the object of our hearts as well? Here are some signs that would help us say that what were feeling is indeed love.

1. When, at the beginning of the day, you are already filled with thoughts of the other person: what he/she is doing, how he/she looks, what you could do to make him/her smile today when something good or nice happens to you, you always think of how you must share this with him/her, be it a funny story or a moment of your triumph. You always wish that he/she would be right there with you, but even if he/she isnt, its okay because you know that soon you will be together and you anticipate that. No moment, no matter how dull it seems like simply watching TV together, is ever a wasted moment. Every minute counts when youre with that person.

2. You become selfless. And you start thinking more about what would be good for the other person, than what would be good for you. Your ultimate happiness is to be able to make that other person happy, whether it is with you or with another person. You take care of him/her and you keep looking out for him/her. Be reminded however that making the other person happy does not include inflicting or causing harm to yourself or being untrue to yourself. You dont ask that person to do sacrifices for you either, such as doing stuff you asked them to do just to prove their love to you.

3. You start to think of how it would be to be with this person forever and you relish that dream or feeling. The thought of spending the rest of your lives together is not seen as being stuck with another person, but is considered to be a very wonderful idea.

4. Even if there are other people who are more beautiful or attractive, you still choose to be with this person. This means your commitment to this person is absolute. You have fully and undeniably decided to be with only him/her no matter what. It is not only love, but also devotion.

5. There is passion and fireworks, even after the infatuation period of six months. If you have been together for such a long time now, but arent bored out of your minds yet and can still feel the fire burning simply because you keep it burning (and this requires dedication and effort), is a clear indication that love is still shared between two people.
6. There is a desire to understand each other, even at the biggest of arguments. You continue to communicate openly and do not harshly judge each other. You accept each others faults and shortcomings. For example, no matter how fat she gets and no matter how much he drools when he sleeps, you still stay and love the person. Also, you stay true and honest to that person.

7. There is a great deal of respect, admiration and trust for this person. And she/he has earned it well.

Posted on January 28, 2006 - by Administrator

Five Dating Nightmares To Avoid

Dating should be fun and it should be a precursor to more wonderful things. The promise of romance is blooming, and theres no better feeling than waking up every morning in anticipation of your next date and the many wonderful things they entail.

But not all dates would prove wonderful. In fact, some dates already have telltale signs of disasters waiting to happen. Its all about the person youre dating, you see. If he or she exhibits some signs that are quite telling of an unhealthy relationship that may arise out of the date or dates you will have with him or her, then it would be more prudent to avoid them as early as possible.

What are these signs? More particularly, what are these types of people that you should not entertain any romantic inclinations with?

* A person on the rebound. Yup, were talking about a guy or a gal who just came from a heartbreaking relationship. Chances are, he or she would just be looking for a spare tire, someone who would make him or her forget about his or her recent relationship. Whats wrong with that, you might ask? Well, a relationship is all about appreciating each other. How could your partner appreciate the totality of your being when his or her mind is still dwelling on his or her previous relationship?

* A megalomaniac. He or she would be easy to pinpoint. During a date, a megalomaniac would talk about nothing but himself or herself. Sure, he or she might listen to what you have to say, but will he or she be paying any attention? Just as quickly as he or she would lend his or her ears, a megalomaniac would almost, always talk about himself or herself once more. A relationship is supposed to be a mutual thing. What good is a partner whos more concerned about his or her affairs than yours, right?

* The conditional date. Theyre the ones who are so fixated with technicalities. What would we call ourselves? Sweetheart, darling, baby or honey? This should be an open relationship, meaning, were together but were free to date whomever we want to go out with. I could only meet you every weekend, past 5 p.m. They impose so many things on relationships which have yet to be finalized. And often, you get the losing end of the stick. Do not be swayed by their tactics. Impose what you want as well, give them a piece of your mind. If theyre cool with it, then swell. But if theyre not, youre better off with someone else.

* The freeloader. This is applicable for guys from whom some chivalry is expected. Going Dutch is alright. Treating him once or twice is acceptable. But him asking you to pay for the bill every time? Such would be quite telling of what relationship you could expect from the guy. Will you be alright with the thought of being his sugar mommy?

* The bore. Whereas a megalomaniac cant keep his or her mouth shut, a bore would find some difficulty opening his or hers. A date should be fun, and it should promise a wonderful and exciting relationship, should you choose to pursue one. What good is a relationship if your date is a bore? Youll just end up falling asleep in his or her company.

Indeed, dates should be treated as a trial run for a possible relationship with the person we are going out with. When such a person shows some signs that manifest any of the personality types we have discussed above, you better think twice. You wouldnt want to get stuck in an affair that might prove unfruitful after all, right?

Posted on January 25, 2006 - by Administrator

Decoding A Guys Language

So, you just dated a hunk of a guy whom you find very attractive and very intellectually stimulating. He was such a gentleman, and he treated you well. Hes got all the attributes youre looking for in a lifelong partner, and you want him and you want him bad. But as with everything else associated with the initial phase of the dating game, uncertainties abound. You dont know if he could reciprocate the level of interest you have for him. All you have are thoughts of him, as well as the memories of the date that was.

What you would do for some piece of mind, eh? Luckily, the signs you need are all there, encrypted in some form or another, waiting to be decoded. The certainty youre looking for can be found in these signs, and all you have to do is to take some time to study them, and muster enough courage to accept what may not be favorable for your desires. But who knows, right? He might be into you after all.

So, what are these signs, and how, exactly, could you decode them?

* He said that hell call but he didnt. This may go either way. He may be buying his time so that hell give you the impression that hes not interested, which would heighten the surprise when he does reveal his true feelings for you. Or he may not be interested with you. Prepare yourself for any eventuality.

* He called as soon as he got home. Rejoice, girl! Youve got a connection! Play your cards right, and hes in the bag!

* He called even before he could get home. Wow! You dont have to play your cards right this time. Hes very much into you, and he cant wait to see you again. The ball is in your court now. It will all depend on how long or how fast you would allow the courting process to take.

* He talked about himself most of the time during dinner. Again, this may go either way. He may be a natural egomaniac who can think of nothing else but himself. Or he may be trying to impress you with what he believes are his better qualities. Or he finds you interesting, but he sees you as someone who would spare some time for his grand tales of personal accomplishments.

* He talked about himself most of the time during dinner, even when youre about to share your thoughts with him. Uh-oh. This is a definite danger sign. You have a certain megalomaniac at hand. Stay away as early as possible.

* He said something similar to youre a good friend. Its a euphemism for sorry, I just cant see you and me together. Take a hint and abandon all hopes. Hes not just into you, but hes too polite not to say it straight to your face.

* He said something similar to youre like a sister to me. Same as above, albeit in a friendlier, more affectionate language.

* He didnt offer to take you home. Forget it. The date was tortuous for him, and hes happy its over and done with.

* He kept taking those bathroom breaks. This could go in either of three ways. First, he may be married or is otherwise committed, hence hes been excusing himself to place a call to his wife or girl. Second, he may be too bored with your company and he preferred pacing around in between your conversations. Or third, he must be suffering from a severe case of diarrhea.

The signs you need are right in front of you. Sometimes, though, they may be too much to bear that we choose not to notice them. Dont allow yourself to feel depressed in the event that hes not interested with you. There are a lot of guys out there. Failing to win his heart only means that someone better is meant for you.

Posted on January 24, 2006 - by Administrator

Dating A Married Man

First, a disclaimer: considering the sensitivity of the topic, you are hereby warned that what youre about to read might not be pleasant to your beliefs. Some of the things that will be discussed in this article may be painful. Some may be considered as improper. Some may even be dismissed as condemnable. But the truth is, affairs with married men are a reality. And this article is being written for the party who is often left neglected in similar discussion about this subject: the other woman.

Now, if you find yourself under such a situation, then you know whats happening. Your friends have told you what to expect. Your family, or at least the members who know of your predicament, have told you to desist from the same. You may have resorted to some professional help and they were all in unison in saying that you shouldnt. But you didnt listen to them. You believe that the heart perceives the truth, and your heart is telling you to fight for your love.

So what is the best advice for a woman in an affair with a married man?

Dont.

In the event, however, when such a universal advice is not heeded, how are you supposed to deal with such a relationship? Surely, dating a partner who is already to his wife and family isnt an easy experience to endure. Hence, here are some things which you should realize, consider, and observe.

* There are many people involved, more than just the two of you. You would have to deal with the guilt of inflicting emotional pain on his spouse and kids. Though you could convince yourself that what they dont know wouldnt hurt them, the fact is that what youre doing would most certainly ruin them. When youre playing with hearts, youre playing with lives, and such is a very sensitive matter. Many lives are destroyed because of the pains of the heart.

* Dating a married man entails a lot of restrictions. You cannot be seen in public places together. He could only call when he could find the time away from his family and friends. You cannot visit him at the workplace. These can be too much to bear for anyone.

* Dating a married man entails a lot of sacrifices. Though you should be hailed for the capacity of your heart to extend such amount of love, you will receive no praises. You cannot have him all for yourself, you know that much. And though it takes an extraordinary kind of love to pursue such a course, you will still encounter a lot of pains along the way.

* Dating a married man could possibly stigmatize you with a lot of condemnable titles. Hence, another reason why you should keep the affair a secret. This could be too much to take for most people. You will have to muster enough internal fortitude to deal with this kind of life.

* Dating a married man has a high possibility of being pointless if hes not even contemplating on leaving his spouse. And even if he is indeed thinking about filing a divorce, you would still have to live with the guilt of being a party to a process that ruined a family.

You are not being judged in this article. The situation is already there, and we have to deal with it. With this article, we merely collated and presented some truths which you should know, or truths which you already know though youd rather not think about them.

But as they say, regret is the act of realizing things belatedly. Conjure enough strength to face the true issues, and perhaps, you wont have to regret the acts you are doing today.

Posted on January 24, 2006 - by Administrator

Good Intentions?

Danger Signs That Would Indicate That Your Date Has Less Then Noble Intentions
Dating should be fun. Its a chance to get to meet other people and explore romantic possibilities with them. Enjoyable times can be experienced. Engaging in an activity with someone else is far better than engaging in activities by yourself, after all. Dating would allow you this luxury, and it could also promise many joys and many memories that you could savor for a long, long time, especially when you go out with someone you like.

But dating should also serve a more important purpose. Remember, the reason why youre going out with someone is to test the waters for a possible relationship. The things your date will show you during the times you spend together can be telling of what kind of partner he would be.

Lets take a look at some danger signs you should be wary of, so that you may avoid the wrong partner as early as possible.

* Is he begging for some intimacy during your very first date? He may be after something else, and once he gets it, he would lose interest in being with you. Some people view dating as a game of hunters and preys. Theyd rather be the ones who would hunt and once their prey falls into their traps, theyd just dismiss them almost immediately.

* Did he come up with all sorts of excuses to make you pay for dinner? Like how he forgot his wallet, or how he has to send his siblings to school being that he is the breadwinner of the family? Uh-oh. You might have a freeloader at hand. He might be after your wallet instead of your personality. And he might find your bank account a more stimulating topic than your thoughts.

* Does he talk about himself 95% of the time? He may be an egoistic person who might just take you for granted once you enter a relationship with him. If you dont want to be taken for granted, it would be wise to avoid such a person as a partner.

* In the same light, does he show little interest about what you have to say? He may be more interested about his own stories than yours. In which case, you have reason to believe that youve got a megalomaniac for a date. A relationship should be a two way street. If he wants to do all the talking, and if he expects you to do all the listening, then such might not prove healthy.

* How were his table manners? This would reflect on how he lives his life. If hes too meticulous about where to eat, what to feast on, and how to enjoy your meals, then theres that possibility that youre dating an obsessive-compulsive fellow. Not that being OC is bad, but you have to ask yourself if such a person is the right fit for you. If he ate before your order arrived, or if he displayed some rather obnoxious behavior while having dinner, you might have a sloppy Joe as a date, and you should prepare your mind to do all the household chores once he moves in to your place, or vice versa. Again, you have to think if such a person is the right partner for you.

* Try to consider his other manners as well. Does he assist you in crossing the street? Does he open the door for you? Does he pull the chair to help you sit down? If he does not exhibit these traits, its alright. Though a little chivalry would be nice, its quite a lot to expect in this day and age of empowerment. But if he wantonly neglects the most basic of courtesies, then you may have to think twice whether or not you should engage in a relationship with him.