Posted on November 20, 2006 - by Administrator

A Healthy Relationship

Relationships are like house plants. They need to be tended to with love, care and understanding. Those who take their relationship for granted pay a heavy price for their laid-back approach.

The best relationships are those that are built on respect, commitment, and communication. In fact, good communication is the foundation of any strong relationship.

You have to learn to share your thoughts and feelings with your partner, even if they are unpleasant. Sometimes the fear of offending your partner makes you keep quiet, and suffer in silence. You are not only being unfair to yourself but also sowing grief.

You have to also trust each other. Suspicion leads to hate, jealousy, and sadness. Often, these feelings get out of control, and devastate relationships. The best way to keep trust within your relationship is to confide in your partner. This removes doubt in your partner, and will not allow misunderstandings to grow.

You must also be honest with each other. Do not allow yourself to brush unpleasant issues under the carpet. If you have done something wrong, let your partner know. It will be unpleasant at first, but will also make your relationship grow stronger (given you haven’t done something so bad it destroys your relationship).

Being a part of a “couple” should not influence the sense of oneself. Establishing boundaries where needed helps preserve a balanced relationship. Love includes many expectations that need to be met. All partners expect something out of the other. But it is only when expectations are practical and both the partners are able to meet them fairly that life is happy and content.

There are three stages in all relationships. First is attraction. When you are attracted to someone, you want to know more about them, their likes, dislikes, interests, etc. At that point you gather the courage to make the first move, like asking to go to a movie or dinner.

Second is the “testing” stage. This is when the relationship starts blooming. If you hide the truth at this stage, or tell lies, then you can be sure that the relationship will end soon in heartbreak.

Third is the conflict stage. As the relationship progresses, there will be fights and disagreements. Those who are capable of handling these conflicts with trust and reason will be able to keep the relationship going. All the others will simply flounder. So, learning to handle conflicts is a must to any relationship. And with first hand experience, conflicts also bring a couple closer together.

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