Archive for October, 2006
Posted on October 26, 2006 - by Administrator
Get noticed at an Online Dating Site
You may be the most popular man or woman in real life, but unless you can catch some attention at an online dating site, you will go unnoticed.
To get noticed, you will have to write a catchy profile. You should write about you, your interests, your hobbies, and what you like and dislike. You should also write about the qualities you are looking for in the person you are seeking.
Men should try to write about themselves, not just the sports they are interested in. Writing about sex should be avoided. Creating some mystery about yourself could help you get more responses. Women can catch attention by making subtle references to sensuality. But women should never make the mistake of being blatant about sex. They will get the wrong kind of emails if they do, if you know what I mean.
Do not be afraid to post a photograph. You should post both a full and a close up photograph of yourself. Profiles with photographs produce many more responses than profiles without photographs. Be cautious about which photograph you pick. Avoid posting the pictures that may give people a wrong impression about you.
Choose a photograph that shows you looking relaxed and happy. A photograph taken in a studio may look like it is too formal, use one that is natural.
If you create a profile on a dating website, make sure that you make it crisp and to the point. It should give reason for other online daters to stop, and send you an email. Casual or half hearted profiles bring little response or draw the wrong response.
You should also read the website’s profile policy. Some dating websites put the latest profiles near the top of searches. If this is true at your website, then you must update your profile regularly to stay near the top of the list.
Contact people who interest you. Don’t just create a profile and wait for people to contact you. Remember that newer members are most likely to respond. So, email them first. Check for responses frequently and respond as soon as you can to all messages, even if you are not interested.
Posted on October 18, 2006 - by Administrator
Long Distance Relationship Advice
Conventional wisdom tells us that absence makes the heart grow fonder. On the opposite end: out of sight, out of mind. So how can one keep a long distance relationship from falling apart? Will you hope that distance will stimulate love? Or hammer out the means to prevent the relationship from falling apart, and dying.
In today’s world, the challenge of a long distance relationship is even more difficult. More and more young men and women are moving and working in distant places. The sensations of touching, cuddling, and caressing are no longer available. Spending quality time with each other is also not there. Another thing one might not realize is missing is the occasional argument. These little arguments actually reinforce relationships, and bring couples closer together.
So how do couples keep their long distance relationships going? One thing you can do is keep pictures near by to always remind you of them. Put one on your night stand so they are the last thing you see before sleep. Take one to work so you see them all day. This will remind you of your partner, and if you are truly in love, you will cherish every moment your eye catches one of the pictures. Also, talk about your friends with your partner so they do not feel out of the loop.
Use online services such as e-mail, chat, and especially voice chat to keep in constant touch with your partner. Talk about more than how much you miss each other. Good conversation is a must to keep a long distance relationship alive. Talk about your day, and do not forget to ask how their day is going. Interest in your partner’s day to day activities will also keep them interested in you.
Make an effort to see each other once a month or every couple of months if the situation makes traveling difficult. Make sure you do your part to go to them instead of them always coming to you. If you can accept the fact you will have to put in a little work to keep the long distance relationship alive, and your partner feels the same, you will have nothing to worry about!
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Posted on October 12, 2006 - by Administrator
How to have a Conversation on Your First Date
You know you have someone interested in you if you have scored a first date. First step accomplished. Now, what do you talk about on your date?
Besides deciding what to wear, what you say on your first date can be a real nerve racking experience. For some people, conversation comes naturally, even if the other person isn’t a real talker. For the rest of you, good news: you can mold yourself into the talker.
There is one major rule to first date conversations. Do not make a fool of yourself. This may sound obvious, but for some people, being overly anxious and nervous can really make a bad impression. Try to suppress all signs of nervousness. All you have to do is be yourself and conversation will come naturally. Remove the thought of rejection from your head and avoid negative thoughts. Remember, if this date does not work out, then so be it!
Those awkward silences will happen. Blurting out the first thing that comes to mind will not help! Better to have a few seconds of silence than to say something you will regret. There are little things you can do to help you get through the silence. For instance, sipping your drink can grant you a couple of precious seconds to think of something to ask or say to keep the conversations going. Keep in mind, if you are being yourself, you will eventually find things in common, which will make for more conversation than you can get out in one night. You know what happens then… second date!
There are many things that can get a conversation going. Make a quick observation of your date. If he or she is the intellectual type, current events can be a great topic to begin with. Talk about your job and how happy or discontented you are with your career. You can also share your experiences. Something funny that has happened to you may be a good conversation starter. Ask your date about their hobbies and what interests them. Always reply with comments or follow-up questions to keep the conversation moving forward.
The popular “what’s your favorite” questions should not be missed. You can actually get to know a persons individual taste with this kind of question. Almost everybody loves traveling, so you can also talk about where you went on your past vacations. Your date might share some thoughts of a dream holiday as well, and who knows, you might even end up taking a vacation together!
After the first date, one can tell if the date went well on the basis of how the conversation went. Always prepare yourself with a mental list of the possible things you can talk about. The key to a successful first date is to be yourself, and if you can accomplish that, everything else will be a piece of cake.
Posted on October 11, 2006 - by Administrator
How to Communicate in a Relationship
We do not require the services of a psychologist to let us know that the best relationships are those that are based on good communication. Yet, we hardly ever try to change our ways. We continue on along our paths, eager that somehow everything will fall into place. Sometimes, it does – thanks to the hard work of our partners. But typically it does not. We allow the fault lines to grow deeper and arrive at a stage where they can no longer be bridged.
The first necessity to have good communication in a relationship is to respect each other. Men, who consider their wives inferior will seldom, if ever, strike a good relationship. The same is true for women. They can never hope to gain their confidence and affection if they look down upon their husbands.
Good communication also requires good listening skills. A husband and a wife must discover how to listen to each other. They must focus on to what their spouse is saying, and respond. Very often, couples grow apart because the husband and wife don’t pay attention to what each other are saying. This can be very frustrating – for one or for both.
There should also be sympathy. A spouse must show concern when things are not going right. This is the unspoken communication. One does not have to convey it. Mere body language becomes a foundation for comfort. You feel stronger if your partner holds your hand and tells you that you can defeat your misfortunes. Suddenly, you don’t feel alone. The relationship grows.
Another way to build a relationship is to talk about uncomfortable issues. It is difficult to tell your spouse as to how your boss has neglected you or how you have made a fool of yourself in front of your co-workers. It requires great courage to face your faults. But if you have a loving spouse, and if you believe that they will support you, then you must discuss subjects that damage male egos or female vanities. You will find that you have gotten rid of a big psychological burden. More than that, the emotional bonds between you and your spouse will grow to be stronger.
The same applies to sexual relationships. Couples perform better when they respect each other, and communicate better with each other. The communication isn’t always through words alone. Simple acts of caressing or holding hands are a big form of communication. They break up resentments over perceived or actual slights, bridge distances and create positive energy.
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Posted on October 5, 2006 - by Administrator
Find a Date Online
If you are alone and are seeking companionship, meeting people online can be very worthwhile. Whether you are looking for a casual friendship, or a long-term relationship, it helps if you learn how to find the right date online. Online dating services offer you a motivating, enjoyable, and safe environment, where you can mingle with like-minded people.
Here is some advice to help you find your date:
Include your picture in your profile. This draws much more attention to you profile than it would without a picture.
Construct a profile that brings out your personality, background, hobbies and interests. Aim to go beyond the usual details and write about things that inspire you and make you happy. This will help people to learn what is unique about you. This will help you find the right dates.
When you are talking with someone online, be positive and be honest about yourself. Keep in mind you should not reveal too many personal details about yourself too soon. It is wise to let the relationship develop more slowly.
Don’t feel any pressure to meet the person face to face too soon. It is better to let the woman decide when the first date should happen. The man can tell her that he is interested in meeting her and the woman can decide when and where they will meet.
Always make sure of your safety and privacy by making your user name random and not your name, so that you remain anonymous. You can also use online dating websites that offer you anonymous e-mail. This will protect your personal e-mail.
If you feel comfortable with the person after your first date, by all means ask them out again!
Posted on October 5, 2006 - by Administrator
Making Your First Online Date Safe
Meeting someone online can be a fun and enjoyable experience. Even so, you should always protect yourself from the few predators that are inevitably out there.
You should meet in a public place when you are meeting someone for the first time. Instead of having your date pick you up, meet them at your destination. Tell a friend where you are going and who you are meeting before you meet your date. These are all safeguards to protect your self. You will probably not need to worry, online dating has become very popular in recent years, and many people do it. Although, if you STILL feel uncomfortable, you can always request a friend to accompany you, or even make it a double date.
Be cautious about what personal information you reveal on your first date. If you get a bad feeling about the other person, use your common sense and leave immediately.
These few safeguards will insure you have a safe and enjoyable first meeting with your online friend.
Posted on October 4, 2006 - by Administrator
How To Listen In a Relationship
How many times has your attention wandered when listening to an unexciting speaker? How many times have you nodded your head in understanding even though you have really heard nothing? This is a common behavior, and there is nothing wrong with you for doing it. It happens to almost everybody. We may hear what someone is saying, but until we listen we can’t grasp what they are telling us.
How can we learn to listen? It is not a hard thing to achieve. All that you need is some self training and discipline. The first thing is to manage your thoughts. You cannot be a good listener if you permit your thoughts to roam. This happens to the majority of us when some word or sentence made by the speaker triggers your memory, and your mind goes in another direction. You will then need to control your thoughts, and refocus. This is not always easy, because the mind is very powerful. It moves in all directions, many times without you realizing it.
A great way to keep your mind focused is to train your mind to do so for extended periods of time. You can achieve this by listening to a radio or recorded speech. You run the speech for a fixed amount of time, five minutes to start with. If your mind wanders while the speaker is talking, restart the speech. Do it with different speeches until you can stay focused for five minutes. Once this is accomplished, increase the time to ten minutes, and repeat the exercise.
You will find that you will be able to concentrate better, and follow what the speaker is saying. You now can repeat the exercise using a video, where the speaker uses their hands for effect, or rattles off sentences. You will find that very frequently these minor things will send your mind wandering. You can stop you mind from doing this with practice. Train your mind to stop wandering due to the activity beyond what the speaker is saying in the video.
These exercises might seem a little far fetched, but they can and will train your mind to follow what people are saying in your day to day activities. And we all know listening is a major trait required for a relationship.